People are sometimes living in the way the society tells them how to live. Often times, we cover our own identity just to fit in and to be accepted. Is it true or is it a lie? or is it even worth it?
Before, I been trying hard to be my best and to be the best version of myself. I tried hard to please some people at work, friends, and family. I actually did what they wanted, for them to be pleased at some point. But, I grew tired of it eventually. Nowadays, I try to be and try to show them what I am made of regardless of what they think of me, and boy, I’m telling you, I can breathe now.
I am not saying that I don’t try to please people in my life now, I still do, but only in the most simple ways. Cooking and baking. Making my chores well and loving them the way I want to. As far as I can see, it is worth the try to be you especially when you are surrounded by good people who can accept you, no matter what.
However, I asked myself why did I even try to please other people and felt little. Maybe because I wanted to be accepted on the standard that they have, or I just wanted to be “one”of them, not realizing that “Me” was lacking. I am only one of those people who had their identity gone because we had to please and be accepted by many people. I know how it feels when people think you are “weird” in their eyes because you’re different.
Now, I can see lots of people are getting out of their shell and loving their own skin, their own race and be proud even if people are finding it “not normal”.I’m not saying that we shouldn’t please people, but I do think that having a limit to it will be best. A confident and unconditional love, support and self-worth are the most important things that a person should have for us not feel the need to please people. As a reminder, each of us are unique in one way or another, being accepted is given not being asked.